Une bonne nouvelle: A writer must not hold back, but bare her soul

A few days ago I published a “no excuses” post deliberately not explaining my nearly month long silence on EmilyintheGlass. With a little further reflection, however, I’ve decided that, while excuses are still unnecessary, perhaps a little anecdote would be appropriate.

Let me also say that I struggled to decide how to approach the revelation of recent personal events on my blog. First approach: sidestep mention of it entirely (which is what I’ve been doing, as you’ll soon note). I thought about the oft-overstepped line that should be drawn between a blogger’s personal life and her written life. I considered the magic of keeping certain secrets to myself. I resolutely replied to all who inquired, “I don’t think this news has a place on my blog.”

And then I started to envision the readers of this blog, sometime in the future, learning through hints or phrases or pictures or titles that something major had changed and knowing that I, the writer, the storyteller, had kept it from them — intentionally, in the name of discretion.

At the risk of sounding too dramatic, I would use the word “betrayed” to describe the way I’d feel if I learned that one of the writers I follow so faithfully had kept something so principal from me, the reader.

I think I stumbled upon one of the major dilemmas and major joys in a writer’s life. It is the question of transparency. A writer must not hold back, but bare her soul: wisely, artistically; but honestly nonetheless.

And so, to all of you who have not yet shared in my utter and complete joy, I’d like to announce that Nicolas and I are engaged!

A month ago I didn’t know what to write. For days I didn’t even visit my own blog. Perhaps I felt silenced by my secret. Now I know that such a pertinent bit of news cannot be kept from this platform, quite simply because it will animate so much of what I write in the coming days, weeks, months…

Voila. Not an excuse, but maybe a bit of a better explanation. Hooray!


Une bonne nouvelle : un écrivain ne doit pas se retenir, mais ouvrir son coeur.

J’ai publié il y a quelques jours un post ‘’pas d’excuse’’ évitant délibérément d’expliquer le long mois de silence d’EmilyintheGlass. Cependant après mûre réflexion, j’ai décidé que si les excuses n’étaient toujours pas nécessaires, peut être qu’une petite anecdote serait appropriée.

Laissez-moi vous dire également que j’ai eu beaucoup de mal à décider comment aborder la révélation de certains événements personnels sur ce blog. Première approche : éviter complètement d’en parler (ce que j’ai tout d’abord fait, comme vous allez le remarquer). J’ai pensé à la frontière, souvent franchie, qu’un blogueur doit dessiner entre sa vie privée et sa vie d’écrivain. J’ai pris en compte la magie de garder certains secrets pour soi. J’ai résolument répondu à tous ceux qui me posaient la question ‘’je ne pense pas que cette nouvelle aie sa place sur mon blog.’’

Puis j’ai commencer à imaginer les lecteurs de ce blog, apprenant dans le futur à travers des allusions, des phrases, des photos ou des titres que quelque chose d’essentiel avait changé et sachant que moi, l’écrivain, le narrateur, je le leur avais caché intentionnellement, au nom de la discrétion.

Au risque de paraître trop dramatique, j’utiliserais le terme ‘’trahison’’ pour décrire mon sentiment si j’apprenais qu’un des écrivains que je suis si fidèlement m’avait caché quelque chose d’aussi essentiel, à moi son lecteur.

Je suppose que je butte sur l’un des principaux dilemmes et l’une des plus grandes joies d’un écrivain. C’est la question de la transparence. Un écrivain ne doit pas se retenir, mais ouvrir son cœur : sagement, artistiquement, mais néanmoins honnêtement.

Et donc, pour vous tous qui n’avez pas encore partagé ma joie totale et absolue, j’ai l’honneur de vous annoncer que Nicolas et moi sommes fiancés !

Je ne savais pas quoi écrire il y a un mois. Pendant des jours je n’ai même pas consulté mon blog. Je me sentais peut être réduite au silence à cause de mon secret. Maintenant, je sais qu’une nouvelle aussi pertinente ne peut pas ne pas être publiée ici, simplement parce que cela va tellement influencer ce que j’écrirai dans les jours, semaines et mois à venir…

Voilà. Pas une excuse, mais peut être une explication un peu meilleure. Hourra !


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12 responses to “Une bonne nouvelle: A writer must not hold back, but bare her soul

  1. So so so so SO SO SO happy for you!!! Fat kisses from here to Burgundy and back to MN. Can’t wait to hear about all the cross-continental wedding planning!

  2. Palmer Pedigo

    CONGRATS…… No reason to hide this news!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU and am SOOO HAPPY FOR YOU! The only problem I have is that you were supposed to wait until AFTER I was married to do all this..LOL But since I am slow I will not hold you to it! Miss you and excited to see you when you return!! ❤ U!

  3. Deirdre

    congratulations, to you both! yay!!

  4. Nat

    Finally! Not just for the engagement (as Nicolas’ big sister I was of course on to the secret…) but for sharing it on your post… I had been looking forward to reading how you would be sharing this big news.
    To all those who are reading you, I just want to share that we are extremely happy to welcome Emily in our family! We now have an even number of 12 adults around the table when we all get together and it’s loads of fun!

  5. kitkatlikereflexes

    I saw something on FB yesterday, but didn’t want to say anything till you’d officially announced it. Congrats to an adorable couple! 🙂

  6. I’d say that the explanation was well worth the wait. 😉

    Again, mes félicitations for you both! Gros bisous!

  7. Moma Sandy

    I’m bursting at the seams with joy for you both and your collective families! …. Tres magnifique!!! 🙂
    Moma Sandy

  8. As you know, we are delighted in the wonderful news! Such a darling couple. God is so good!!!!

  9. CONGRATS! so glad i checked this 🙂 how exciting emily… wish you all the happiness in the world :).

    also– how long are you in france?! i may be coming through in the next month or two and would love to see you.

  10. Jennifer Pietropaoli

    Ah! Congratulations and best wishes to you both!

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